The biggest mistake I made trying to lose weight.


I have a question for you:

Is it a contradiction to love your body AND try to change it at the same time?

Here’s what I think: NO. 

Here’s what I used to think: YES. 

How could I love my body now when I want to change it?! 

The thing I didn’t realise was the two are actually a match made in heaven. Loving your body is such an important part of the weight loss process.

I used to hate myself into shape. And even when I did lose weight I was still miserable because I couldn’t break the pattern of negative body thoughts, no matter what size I was. How could I start loving myself if I wasn’t at my perfect dream body?! is what I used to think. I thought I’d be happy when I was size X or weighed X kilos or just lost a little bit more or just toned up a that extra little bit.

Hating caused stress, restriction and guilt around food. The whole process was hard and not the least bit enjoyable. And if I did lose weight, I was loving in constant fear of gaining it back.

This was the biggest mistake. I didn’t get that I had to love myself now. I thought when I lost weight I would magically fall in love with myself and all would be well. I was wrong. 

Loving your body doesn’t mean accepting defeat. And it doesn’t mean stay stuck. It means surrendering to the way things are right now, accepting what is, letting go and trusting your body.

Begin to appreciate all the amazing things about your body. It works hard to keep you healthy and alive. It’s pretty amazing.

Yes you can improve your health, wellbeing and fitness. Just make sure you are being your own cheerleader. With more love, improvements will come smoothly and swiftly. They have to! You’re taking better care of your body by loving it.     

Seriously, when I truly let myself consider the possibility of this concept my mind was blown. It was almost like I couldn’t believe I was allowed to like myself AND change at the same time. 

It can be uncomfortable to change our thought patterns, but that’s just because we are so comfortable being set in our ways. Even just having awareness of your thoughts and noticing what comes up is a great place to start. This means catching yourself out when you pick on you, out loud in front of other people or in your head. I make a big concious effort to not criticize myself when I see photos of me for example. I know I’m taking the right steps to get to where I want to be so there is no point criticizing myself when I’m doing my very best to improve. 

And if the old negative beliefs start to appear, just remember that’s all they are, old negative beliefs. They have no power over you. It’s just old programming. YOU have the power to choose new thoughts. I believe in you!



Any thoughts, questions or contributions? Leave me a comment below. I can’t wait to hear from you. 

2 thoughts on “The biggest mistake I made trying to lose weight.

  1. You have a new fan! Love your blog. Your posts about emotional eating and loving your body just as it is now! I think that might indeed be the key to true happiness and a healthy body. Otherwise, I’m also in transition this moment careerwise. Still in a job I don’t love, studying at the same time to become a health coach, trying to be patient and accepting the time it takes to switch.. So you are a huge inspiration to me! Big hug from Belgium, Isabel x P.S.: Awesome sweater in this picture!

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