How to break your own heart. (P.S. you’re already doing it.)

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Think about how upsetting it is when someone you love says something bad about you, judges you or criticizes you. It hurts. It’s painful. It’s not a nice feeling when you don’t feel good enough in the eyes of someone you love dearly.

So have you ever truly considered how much you are breaking your own heart when you do it to yourself? I mean actually properly thought about it?

Every little negative comment, every thought in self judgement, every look of disgust in the mirror.

For some reason, you are truly convinced that if you criticize yourself enough, the criticism will lead to change.  If you are harsh enough, you think you might start improving. If you shame yourself enough, you believe you will be motivated and inspired.

Wrong wrong wrong!

It has never been true, not for a moment, that shame leads to love. Only love leads to love.

Self acceptance and self love feel like the hardest things in the world. I get it! It’s like, I can’t love this, I can’t accept myself I’m not good enough yet. I can’t say that I’m fine the way I am. 

You might think you aren’t good enough yet to accept yourself, but the ironic thing is as soon as you accept yourself, you start feeling good enough.

Think about someone you love, they aren’t perfect. In fact their imperfections and quirks make you love them even more. Now think about yourself, your imperfections and quirks make you who YOU are. Someone LOVES those things about you. You can love those things about you too.

I should also point out that it is possible to love and accept yourself while still making positive changes about yourself. I think that’s easily forgotten. Don’t think that if you accept yourself you’ll stay exactly as you are and nothing will change. Change is still possible even when you love yourself. In fact, it’s much much easier!

Just being open to the idea of accepting yourself and practicing more and more each day will cause a massive shift.

Stop breaking your own heart.
Hush the self judgement.
Shift your focus onto something you freakin’ love about yourself.
Embrace your quirks.
Be your own cheerleader.
Build yourself up.
Forgive yourself.
Be your best friend no matter what.

What do you say?

 

 

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