I’ve experienced many external changes in my lifetime. My weight always went very up and very down.
But this year was different. I stopped trying to control my external self and instead I’ve been through many many internal changes.
My ideas, beliefs and mindset around my body and my eating was completely turned on it’s head, smooshed up, torn apart and rebuilt into something completely different. And I am so grateful for that.
Here are 14 things I learnt this year:
1. It’s OK to love your body and want to change it at the same time.
In fact, it’s the best way to go about changing your body.
2. When it comes to weight, stress is everything. It’s also a choice.
I already knew stress slows metabolism and diminishes calorie burning capacity. What I didn’t know was how many things caused a stress response:
– negative self talk
– eating fast
– not speaking your truth
– living in the future or past
– not drinking enough water
– over exercising
There are times when we can’t avoid stress, but we can reduce the amount of self imposed stressors, like the ones listed above.
3. Your body is not something to be fought and conquered.
The struggle that you partake in with your weight and food is the problem, not your weight.
4. It’s OK to ask for help.
Earlier this year I realised I could only take myself so far in healing my relationship with food. So I began coaching sessions with an amazing woman that I will be forever grateful to have crossed paths with, Sonya Lovell. Sonya helped me kick some limiting beliefs in the ass and gave my mindset a HUGE makeover.
I am so excited to be able to offer people the same kind of help and support.
5. Trust timing.
I get it. You want to lose weight yesterday. You want to be a normal eater yesterday. You want to stop emotional eating yesterday.
Trust the timing of your life. Symptoms don’t go away until you learn what you need to from them.
6. We need nourishment from things other than food.
Of course food nourishes us. But so do many other things. I feel full and nourished when:
+ I spend time outside
+ I see my family and we laugh and laugh and revel in our craziness
+ I have long soul chats with girlfriends
+ I swim in the ocean
+ I declutter my room
+ Spending lazy, down time with my partner
…And when I fill my cup up with these things it means I’m not constantly searching for sweet treats to feel fulfilled.
7. No one knows what anyone’s ideal weight should be.
Mind blown. We don’t know what our ideal weight is at any given time. Take care of your body as best you can and trust it.
8. Don’t wait on the weight.
I nearly didn’t want to start coaching and blogging about positive body image and happy eating until I lost weight. How ironic!!
Stop waiting until you look a certain way before you do all the things you want to do. Start now.
9. Losing weight is not your life’s purpose.
I know at time it feels like it is, but it’s not. Where else could you focus all your amazing energy?
10. Fat is not a feeling.
When you say ‘I feel fat’, what are you really saying? Fat is not an feeling. Anxiety, sadness, disappointment and embarrassment are. Work through how you’re really feeling.
11. Problems with food have little or nothing to do with food.
They are a symptom and a message that something bigger is going on.
12. Willpower is irrelevant.
Normal eaters don’t use willpower, or have more willpower than other people. That would suggest they are controlling themselves around food. They simply just eat when they are hungry and stop when they’re full (generally speaking). You don’t need more willpower. You need to look at why you can’t stop eating the tub of ice cream.
13. Tallying what you’ve eaten so far in the day does not help you.
It just causes stress. Cultivate awareness and cut the habit.
14. Happiness is a way of travel not a destination.
‘I’ll be happy when I look like this…’ is a trap. You’ll always want more. So decide to be happy now.
Your relationship with food has important lessons to teach you. It’s up to you to listen. Open your heart and look deep, I promise it’s worth it.